Stay in charge of YOUR LIFE. The Mediation process is designed to do just that, since nothing happens in the process unless you both agree to it.
Mediation is a voluntary, confidential process to help you resolve your issues and conflicts.
A divorce does not have to mean devastation to your lives. In more and more cases couples are working through a structured settlement called “Mediation”, a process where the couple is in charge of making the decisions that affect the outcome of their divorce.
Mediation is a cooperative effort, which costs a lot less than traditional litigated divorce.
Role of the Mediator:
A mediator is a neutral. He/she does not take sides or choose who is right or wrong. Mediators have completed specialized training approved by the Supreme Judicial Court.
How to stay in Charge:
You need to know what you want. Success in mediation depends on you both knowing what you want your agreement to say. You also both need to be ready and willing. Willing to listen to yourself, ready to listen to each other and ready to try to reach an agreement.
The nuts and bolts of agreeing on the shopping list of items that go into a Divorce Agreement (known as a Separation Agreement) include things like: a Parenting Plan (formerly known as Visitation and Custody); a division of assets; who carries Medical Insurance, weekly support, insurance, payment of family debts, and so forth. But those issues are in a sense the easy part. There are human emotions surrounding separation, failure, change. There are ongling spiritual needs that, if addressed, can help you build a new foundation of strength and courage to face the future.
Our goal is to provide you with the tools and direction to achieve emotional, spiritual and phsical freedom, so that your divorce does not define your life – rather becomes a learning and healing stage that you survived, and which makes you stronger and ultimately a happier you.
Collaborative Divorce is a more sophisticated process than Mediation, but with the same goal and spirit. The end result is an agreement made between the parties without resorting to expensive litigation. This process involves each spouse retaining a Collabarative Lawyer (an attorney who is specially certified in the Collaborative Law process) to represent them, however the two attorneys and the two parties enter into a four way agreement not to resort to litigation to resolve the dispute. In the event either party should thereafter decide to resort to litigation – the Collaborative attorneys are disqualified from continuing in the case, and the parties have to seek alternative counsel.